PRAYER REQUEST SUNDAY
JULY 15, 2012
DEALING WITH GRIEF
Today's post is a special prayer lifted up for those who have lost a child. It may be a child that died BEFORE birth, AT or Soon After birth, or during their life here on earth. Regardless of HOW or WHEN, your loss is one that none of us would ever want to experience. Parents are just not supposed to bury their children. Nonetheless, many of us are called to minister to a grieving parent and often are at a loss as to HOW. Allow me to share this story.
My heart is broken for a very dear young mother who lost her 16 yr. old son, J.R., back in March.
J.R. was driving home after the local High School Golf Team practice when his truck ran off the edge of the road, he tried to correct by sharply pulling the steering wheel and the truck spun out of control ejecting J.R. from the truck. No, sadly, he wasn't wearing his seat-belt like many young men who at age 16 think they're invincible.
I taught this young mother when she was in 6th grade. Even then, her quiet spirit spoke of a depth of character and inner strength far beyond her years. God knew she would go through this *season* of grief and was preparing her to face her greatest challenge.
Today, she posted a prayer request on her Facebook page that touched me in such a way that I felt I needed to share it with you in hopes that it may help another parent grieving over the loss of a child. Her depth of spirit shines in these poignant words of grief as well as her need for others to help her in her walk.
How Can YOU Help a Grieving Parent?
1. Prayer: The effectual, fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. James 5:16
2. Prepare a meal or give the family a restaurant coupon such as for Pizza delivery.
Preparing a meal can be an overwhelming task when you are grieving.
3. If there are other children in the family, plan a fun activity with them and allow the parents to
have some alone time.
4. BRIEF check-in calls, texts, emails with words of love and encouragement let them know
that hey are not forgotten. For them, their world has stopped and watching everyone go about
their lives can be painful. So many forget that grief is a long process and the need to comfort
can be a lengthy process as well.
5. Plan a lunch/dinner date or a short outing and encourage the parents to come with you.
If at first you don't succeed, keep asking!
6. Be a good listener by encouraging them to TALK about their child or their experiences.
DON'T SAY: "I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL" WE CAN NEVER KNOW HOW ANOTHER
PERSON FEELS ESPECIALLY ABOUT GRIEVING!
7. A Hand written note of encouragement on a REGULAR basis via snail mail. I've always found
this gesture to be welcomed!
8. Think of someway to honor or pay tribute to the child. Locally, our Botanical Garden (for a $25
charitable donation) will release a butterfly in the person's name and the grieving family
receives a beautiful 8x10 watercolor butterfly painting. A friend honored my mother in this
way and every time I pass the butterfly painting on my wall, I smile! Plant a tree, rosebush,
or other plant.
9. In the child's name: volunteer for a charitable organization, participate in local
charity runs/marathons, donate blankets/quilts for the Hospital NICU, endow a scholarship,
10. LISTEN, HUG, LISTEN, HUG, PRAY, PRAY, PRAY , PRAY and on and on and on...
My sincerest blessings go out to all parents AND Grandparents who have experienced a loss.
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