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Tuesday, August 7, 2012



Today was a special day!  Today was Clay's 9th Birthday and the two of us spent Clay Day shopping for Lego sets, school supplies and a Back to School First Day T-Shirt! Today not only reminded me of the specialness of my Grandson Clay but of the Back To School Rituals that take on such importance this time of year. It is so important to wear something new on that First Day of School! New School Supplies and new School Clothes...Important???  You Betcha!

Mercer Elementary School
I went to school here.  In my memory that sidewalk was a MILE long
especially during Fire Drills mid-winter with snow!

I know...I taught for over 30+ yrs and I watched every year as the children came in with their new shoes as yet unscathed from the latest mud puddle, the new backpacks with a few price tags inadvertently left hanging onto the zipper in the mad dash to fill it up with every last pencil, pen, ruler, eraser, highlighter, and marker your parents bought!

  Oh the First Day of School the tone is set for the entire year by what you wear ...or Don't wear...by Where you sit for lunch or Who you sit WITH at lunch...or who sits WITH you...all those little nuances that can make or break a child. 

 BUT...MORE IMPORTANTLY, THE PECKING ORDER WILL BE ESTABLISHED and THAT my dear friends is what the rest of this blog post is about....READ ON...

My sister sent me a link to a blog post written in August of last year.  I urge you to go HERE (Dear Chase Momastery) and Read..but just in case...I've decided to copy and paste the entire post right here (with Glennon's permission). I don't know if I've ever read anything so eloquently written concerning the topic of bullying and/or teaching our own children/grandchildren that elusive sentiment called *COMPASSION*.  It's worth your time to read..I PROMISE!!

My Grandson Clay will be entering Third Grade on Aug. 20th and I WILL make sure this letter is read to him, his brother and sister, on the night of Aug. 19th


(Glennon's letter to her son Chase, Aug. 2011)
Hey Baby.
Tomorrow is a big day. Third Grade – wow.
Chase – When I was in third grade, there was a little boy in my class named Adam.
Adam looked a little different and he wore funny clothes and sometimes he even smelled a little bit. Adam didn’t smile. He hung his head low and he never looked at anyone at all. Adam never did his homework. I don’t think his parents reminded him like yours do. The other kids teased Adam a lot. Whenever they did, his head hung lower and lower and lower. I never teased him, but I never told the other kids to stop, either.
And I never talked to Adam, not once. I never invited him to sit next to me at lunch, or to play with me at recess. Instead, he sat and played by himself. He must have been very lonely.  I still think about Adam every day. I wonder if Adam remembers me? Probably not. I bet if I’d asked him to play, just once, he’d still remember me.
I think that God puts people in our lives as gifts to us. The children in your class this year, they are some of God’s gifts to you.
So please treat each one like a gift from God. Every single one.
Baby, if you see a child being left out, or hurt, or teased, a little part of your heart will hurt a little. Your daddy and I want you to trust that heart- ache. Your whole life, we want you to notice and trust your heart-ache. That heart ache is called compassion, and it is God’s signal to you to do something. It is God saying, Chase! Wake up! One of my babies is hurting! Do something to help! Whenever you feel compassion – be thrilled! It means God is speaking to you, and that is magic. It means He trusts you and needs you.
Sometimes the magic of compassion will make you step into the middle of a bad situation right away.
Compassion might lead you to tell a teaser to stop it and then ask the teased kid to play. You might invite a left-out kid to sit next to you at lunch. You might choose a kid for your team first who usually gets chosen last. These things will be hard to do, but you can do hard things.
Sometimes you will feel compassion but you won’t step in right away. That’s okay, too. You might choose instead to tell your teacher and then tell us. We are on your team – we are on your whole class’ team. Asking for help for someone who is hurting is not tattling, it is doing the right thing. If someone in your class needs help, please tell me, baby. We will make a plan to help together.
When God speaks to you by making your heart hurt for another, by giving you compassion, just do something. Please do not ignore God whispering to you. I so wish I had not ignored God when He spoke to me about Adam. I remember Him trying, I remember feeling compassion, but I chose fear over compassion. I wish I hadn’t. Adam could have used a friend and I could have, too.
Chase – We do not care if you are the smartest or fastest or coolest or funniest. There will be lots of contests at school, and we don’t care if you win a single one of them. We don’t care if you get straight As. We don’t care if the girls think you’re cute or whether you’re picked first or last for kickball at recess. We don’t care if you are your teacher’s favorite or not. We don’t care if you have the best clothes or most Pokemon cards or coolest gadgets. We just don’t care.
We don’t send you to school to become the best at anything at all. We already love you as much as we possibly could. You do not have to earn our love or pride and you can’t lose it. That’s done.
We send you to school to practice being brave and kind.
Kind people are brave people. Because brave is not a feeling that you should wait for. It is a decision. It is a decision that compassion is more important than fear, than fitting in, than following the crowd.
Trust me, baby, it is. It is more important.
Don’t try to be the best this year, honey.
Just be grateful and kind and brave. That’s all you ever need to be.
Take care of those classmates of yours, and your teacher, too. You Belong to Each Other. You are one lucky boy . . . with all of these new gifts to unwrap this year.
I love you so much that my heart might explode.
Enjoy and cherish your gifts.
And thank you for being my favorite gift of all time.
Love, Mama
My Next Post on Friday will be Part Two of this post
*I Choose Evelyn*


  1. How special the memory of today will be for Clay! Thank you for sharing the awesome letter. Every parent should read it to the children regardless of their age. We send our kids and grand kids off with love and prayers . I haven't forgotten the information for you. I will make copies at school to send to you.

  2. Thank you for sharing this. I have tears running down my cheeks. Too often we pass up the moment to extend a small kindness. That small kindness can make all the difference in the world to its recipient, and it costs us but a moment in time.

  3. I will use it as my oldest little girl starts Kindergarten this year. She will be able to understand it and I think it is so important. Thank you so much for posting this.

  4. Amen, having a grandson who is blind makes me notice how people treat children who are different. They stare at him but he can't see that and the children and some adults ask 'What is the matter with his eyes", SOMETIMES THAT IS REALLY HARD TO ANSWER AND FIND THE RIGHT WORDS. All parents should read that letter to their children, I know I am going to read to Jonah (my blind grandson). Thanks Jane for bringing this to our attention. Blessings Sandra


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